For some reason, I have this tune on loop in my mind (look it up: Mika – Grace Kelly). It’s a catchy tune, no doubt, but it’s bothering me because it’s just going on and on….
It got me thinking about how negative self talk can be like earworms…. They just go on and on in our heads, don’t they?
How many times have you allowed your negative thoughts stop you from pursuing your dreams? It happens to ALL of us. It definitely happened to me.
You’re not good enough. Who do you think you are to do THAT? You don’t know enough. Nobody thinks you can make it. People won’t pay you for your service. You’re not good at sales. What makes you think people will even listen to you? What will people say?
I used to let this play and replay over and over in my mind, until I convinced myself it was true. I let it stop me from doing things I was passionate about. I let it stop me from reaching out for help when I desperately wanted and needed help.
I don’t listen to my negative self talk much anymore, because I know it’s coming from a place of fear – fear of the unknown, fear of getting hurt, fear of not belonging, fear of failure – you get the idea. Even when the negativity is coming from a loved one, it’s coming from fear, from trying to protect me. I know and recognise this now, therefore it doesn’t have the same effect on me as it used to.
Are there still negative voices around me? Of course!! Do I still have negative self talk? Sometimes. The difference is now I don’t let those negative thoughts stop me.
I’ve found my own voice, I know who I really am, I realise my own potential, and found a WAY to get what I wanted. I’m on my own journey, I accept it and I absolutely LOVE it!
